Saturday, April 4, 2015

Welcome New Friends

It was just over three years ago that we were the new homeschoolers in town.  We know what it's like to move to a place where we don't know anyone, and where our children, especially, have no friends.

So when I met a new homeschooling family with three boys ages 13, 11, and 8 and one almost-3-year-old girl, I could relate to the story she told of these last few months meeting younger homeschoolers with children 8 and under, but the difficulty in finding friends for her older two boys.  Several of our friends have boys these ages, so we decided to have a party and introduce our "old" friends to our "new" friends.  (Good excuse, right?!)

We negotiated a price for some pizzas from a local pizza place as life has been crazy and I needed to plan a menu, grocery shop, AND cook in order to make the food.  This time, we went with easy.  I include this detail to remind you that practicing hospitality doesn't have to be about going all out with delicacies.  Or about cleaning your house.
We picked up toys, swept the kitchen and dining room, and vacuumed the living room floor.  No kidding--that's all we did.

Anyway, the plan was to eat pizza, play a few minute-to-win-it games to "break the ice", and then let everyone break into their groups (adults, teens, young boys, young girls) to play games and visit.

The guests of honor, Matt and Tami, playing Face the Cookie in which you have one minute to move the sandwich cookie from your forehead into your mouth using only your facial muscles:
Our friends Aaron and Rachel:
And some other friends, Brian and Cheryl:
Cheryl won the adult round.

We also played Baby Blocker, in which you have one minute to balance a plate on your head, then build a tower out of five blocks and get it all to balance.

The younger children had a really hard time with this, but the teens and adults were able to do it more easily.
 Finally, we played the classic game which makes everyone laugh and laugh--Bite Me, in which you have one minute to pick up five sacks of varying heights (2", 4", 6", 8", and 10") with your mouth.  The only part of your body which can touch the floor is your feet.

This is the game the adults have a harder time with, but the kids find easy.  I'm not including the pictures of the adults who tried, although Alan and Matt both accomplished this game.  I think a 13-year-old boy was the final winner of this game as he completed the challenge in only 6 seconds.  Destry was right behind him with a 7-second time.


I can tell Tami is going to be a great friend to have, because when I shared the party idea with her, she asked if she could bring supplies for the kids to make little houses out of graham crackers and icing and some peeps and eggs to go inside. What a great and fun idea!

We ended up doing these right after supper, which was a perfect ice breaker for all the kids to get to know one another while working together on a project and before playing the Minute-to-Win-It games.




Even all the teenagers (3 girls and 4 boys ages 13-19) got in on the fun.


8 adults + 23 children + pizza + dessert craft + games + laughter = 
a night to remember and friendships made.

Thursday, April 2, 2015

The Pursuit of God



Reading to Know - Book Club
(My review is also posted on Carrie's blog, but I include it here to find more easily later.)

A.W. Tozer wrote The Pursuit of God in one night while riding a Pullman train on his way from Chicago to speak in Texas.  He sequestered himself in his roomette, refused all food but some toast and tea, and "wrote all night long, this thing coming as fast to his heart as he could write, and when they pulled into the station, about 7:30 the next morning, at McAllen, Texas, that book was finished and all he had in front of him was just the Bible. . .Beginning with publication in 1948 and continuing for well over a half century, this book has inspired and encouraged pastors and missionaries, as well as a wide range of devout men and women with hearts after God" (A Passion for God, Dorsett, 120).

In the introduction Dr. Samuel M. Zwemer, an author, evangelist, and leader in the Reformed Church of America, describes the book as "theology not of the head but of the heart" (7).  Zwemer also described the book as "a masterly study of the inner life by a heart thirsting after God, eager to grasp at least the outskirts of His ways, the abyss of His love for sinners, and the height of His unapproachable majesty" (6).

Biographer Lyle Dorsett described The Pursuit of God as "one of the most striking manifestations of the truth that if a man will concern himself with the depth of his ministry, the Holy Spirit will take care of the breadth" (121) which certainly seems true as I consider the wide-spread, interdenominational, and enduring fame this admittedly deep book has achieved.

I have heard many references to The Pursuit of God, have always wanted to read it, and can now finally say I have read it.  That may be about all I can claim, however, as I'm not sure I can speak intelligently about it after only one reading.  I didn't enjoy the book as much as I had hoped to.  I found it difficult to read as I wasn't always sure what point he was trying to make. After plowing through several pages, I would finally think "Oh!  That's where he was going", which was frustrating.  As a busy homeschooling mom with a baby (read: sleep-deprived!), however, I'm willing to concede that might have been my problem and not his.

I find it an interesting parallel that I actually enjoyed Dorsett's biography of Tozer more than I enjoyed Tozer's writings.  Just as Tozer himself longed to more fully know God the more he read God's Word, so I also found myself more curious about Tozer as I read his writing.

There were many very good lessons in his writing, of course, but I'll try to limit myself to highlighting only three of them.  One of my favorites was his assertion that individual personal growth toward Christ is more unifying than people purposing to compromise for the sake of unity.

"Has it ever occurred to you that one hundred pianos all tuned to the same fork are automatically tuned to each other?  They are of one accord by being tuned, not to each other, but to another standard to which each one must individually bow.  So one hundred worshippers met together, each one looking away to Christ, are in heart nearer to each other than they could possibly be were they to become 'unity' conscious and turn their eyes away from God to strive for closer fellowship.  Social religion is perfected when private religion is purified.  The body becomes stronger as its members become healthier.  The whole Church of God gains when the members that compose it begin to seek a better and a higher life" (53).

I also really appreciated his chapter  about meekness leading to rest based on Matthew 11:28-29.  Coming to Jesus, giving Him our burdens of pride, pretense, and artificiality, frees us from worrying about ourselves all the time--what people think of us and where we stand in relation to others.  "Jesus calls us to His rest, and meekness is His method.  The meek man cares not at all who is greater than he, for he has long ago decided that the esteem of the world is not worth the effort. . .he has stopped being fooled about himself.  He has accepted God's estimate of his own life" (61).  "Apart from sin we have nothing of which to be ashamed.  Only an evil desire to shine makes us want to appear other than we are. . .The rest he offers is the rest of meekness, the blessed relief which comes when we accept ourselves for what we are and cease to pretend" (63).  That is profound insight, in my opinion, and a different application from those verses than I've ever heard or considered before.



Finally, I found this the scariest passage in his book: "Current evangelicalism has laid the altar and divided the sacrifice into parts, but now seems satisfied to count the stones and rearrange the pieces with never a care that THERE IS NOT A SIGN OF FIRE upon the top of lofty Carmel. But God be thanked that there are a few who care. They are those who, while they love the altar and delight in the sacrifice, are yet unable to reconcile themselves to the continued absense of fire. They desire God above all" (8). (emphasis mine).


While I understand the concerns some have expressed about how we shouldn't "attack" the church, I also remember God sending prophets of old to His people with stern warnings (far more scathing than Tozer's) in order to bring them back to Him. I never got the impression that Tozer feared the church would fizzle out or become unusable, but rather that he was calling us to a higher level, to desiring God above all else and not contenting ourselves with the prescribed procedures of church services. While not all congregations of the Lord's people have this challenge, I have seen some for whom I would share Tozer's concern that they might be religiously "straining at gnats" with "never a care that there is not a sign of fire". Unfortunately, we humans are quick to become complacent or to substitute rules for God's presence, and thankfully God equips people, through His Word and Spirit, to bring us back to Him.


I'm out of space (and likely your indulgence!) to linger in his chapter about the "blessed poor no longer being slaves to the tyranny of things" as they have "rooted from their hearts all sense of possessing" (17), although I would love to discuss it more.


So I will end with the hope Tozer also expressed, that we each will "get still to wait on God. . .alone, preferably with our Bible outspread before us" (45). I would also invite you to read the biography Dorsett wrote about Tozer. I thoroughly enjoyed it. He had the respect and admiration of the leaders of his day, particularly in the Christian and Missionary Alliance denomination of which he was a part. They identified him as a transparent and meek man who "loved the Bible and unflinchingly preached what he believed people needed to hear, regardless of what they wanted" (Dorsett, 17), and a man who "truly knew Jesus Christ rather than just knew what the Bible recorded about Him" (103). While some might criticize him for being self-educated, I personally am an admirer of lifelong learners and believe that seminary is far from necessary for one to adequately share God's Word which is all we need to learn "all things that pertain to life and godliness" (2 Peter 1:3). Like John Wesley, he was a "man of One Book, but the student of many", and his biography details many books he read. He was an imperfect instrument, of course, and I found it very sad to read of his wife's and children's hurts as they were pushed to the background in his quest for deeper intimacy with God yet "he had no inkling that his zeal for God's house was undermining his own" (109). I think this is yet another lesson we can learn from his life, in addition to the lessons he voiced.


While I didn't agree with every word in this book, I would like to read it again for I think it's a book to be carefully mined and not casually read. This is the first book I have read by Tozer, and I hope to someday read another. What would you recommend?

Monday, March 30, 2015

A Passion for God: The Spiritual Journey of A.W. Tozer

A Passion for God: The Spiritual Journey of A. W. TozerA Passion for God: The Spiritual Journey of A. W. Tozer by Lyle W. Dorsett

I enjoyed this book very much.  Dorsett's writing style is easy to read and his details are thorough.  I read it while simultaneously reading The Pursuit of God by Tozer and I think this biography helped me to better understand and appreciate what Tozer was saying and where he was coming from.

Interestingly, I had never heard of Tozer's denominational affiliation, the Christian Missionary Alliance, until we moved here to Iowa three years ago.  The largest congregation in our local town is CMA, whose "biblical and theological foundation is: Christ as Savior, Sanctifier, Healer, and Coming King" (49)

I was intrigued by the identifier of Tozer as a "biblical christian mystic", a term I had never heard before.  I'm still not sure I completely understand what it's referring to, but it seems to have something to do with the understanding of how the Holy Spirit is manifested, particularly in healing and in speaking in tongues (80).  There was also some reference to mysticism merely referring to "existing in a world of spiritual reality" (156), which I take to mean a daily realization that we are spiritual beings temporarily inhabiting a physical body.

Regardless of my unfamiliarity with his exact theology, Tozer was thought highly of by people for many years as there were several quotes referencing his humility, his Bible study habits, his prayer life, his self-education, and his gifts for speaking and writing.

He was particularly well-known for his work with young people as "his goal was to encourage this younger generation to dig into the Word of God and partake of a deeper life with Christ through prayer that encompassed adoration and awe" (101).  College students flocked to hear him speak approximately 30 miles from Wheaton College  and Moody Bible Institute during his years preaching in Chicago.   "Tozer endeared students to himself because of his transparency.  He admitted that he was a flawed man and was not reluctant to mention his own shortcomings. . .It became apparent to students that Tozer truly knew Jesus Christ rather than just knew what the Bible recorded about Him" (103).

While Tozer spent much time discipling young people and in intimate prayer to God, he was not intimate with his wife or children, particularly his sons.  There were multiple references to him being emotionally distant and making life-changing decisions for his family without any discussion with or consideration of his wife.  "My husband was so close to God, a man of such deep prayer, always on his knees, that he could not communicate with me or our family.  No one knew what a lonely life I had, especially after the kids left home" (144).

A few people didn't appreciate Tozer's discernment and warnings about changes in church practices, but others "recognized that he had been called to be an Ezekiel to the twentieth-century church" (146) as "he admonished Christian leaders for their drift toward worldliness manifested in growing practices of adopting leadership models from the business world for the church and for allowing various forms of entertainment to take the place of biblical preaching, teaching, and theocentric worship" (18).  I daresay we can still observe these criticisms today.

Regardless of some criticism of  his style being "sometimes abrasive, and his well-meaning directness hurtful to sensitive souls" (146), the consensus remained that "Tozer's messages--whether written or spoken--caused people to thirst for Living Water, hunger for the Bread of Life, and even desire to read books and enlarge their vocabularies.  Tozer's ministry at once illumined minds and warmed hearts.  In the final analysis, those who imbibed Tozer's fare were spiritually enlivened and hungry for more of Jesus" (112).

I highly recommend this biography to anyone who is interested in learning more about Tozer or is curious about his works.  It has made me want to read another book by Tozer at some point, probably The Knowledge of the Holy:  The Attributes of God:  Their Meaning in the Christian Life.

Sunday, March 29, 2015

March 2015 Nightstand Report

I am happy with what I accomplished in my reading this month as I learned a lot.  Here were my goals (linked to reviews where applicable):
  • The Pursuit of God by A.W. Tozer was my selection for Carrie's Classics Book Club.  This was also one of the books on my list of books I want to read in 2015.  I finished it and got a lot out of it, even as it wasn't the easiest book I've ever read.  I hope to post my review this week, and we'll be discussing it on Carrie's blog this week as well.
  • The Other Wes Moore:  One Name, Two Fates by Wes Moore.  I really, really liked this memoir about two Black men raised in the same area in the same time period with the same name and many similar circumstances who took two different paths.  I highly recommend it.
  • Flight Behavior by Barbara Kingsolver.  Kingsolver is a good storyteller, but this one didn't measure up to The Poisonwood Bible and I still don't agree with her worldview.  As usual, however, she made me think, so I'm glad I read it.
  • Great Expectations by Charles Dickens.  I was hoping to start this classic with my son for literature this month, but we both had many commitments so I wasn't sure we would get to it.  We didn't, but we cleared our calendar for it so we can look forward to it next month.
  • Raising Real Men by Hal and Melanie Young (from my TBR Pile Challenge).  I am halfway finished with this book and anticipate finishing it next month.
Additional books I read this month included:
  • Orange is the New Black by Piper Kerman which was an interesting memoir about a WASP's time in prison.  I wasn't crazy about the narrator, but I did find the book rather interesting.
  • One Plus One by Jojo Moyes was "escapist fiction" and I enjoyed its lightheartedness even as it discussed a couple of themes I found worth pondering.
  • A Passion for God:  The Spiritual Journey of A.W. Tozer by Lyle Dorsett.  I read this biography alongside The Pursuit of God and thoroughly enjoyed it. I would highly recommend it to anyone who has any curiosity about Tozer's life.  
What's On Your Nightstand

In April I hope to read:
  • Great Expectations by Charles Dickens with Destry for literature
  • Raising Real Men by Hal and Melanie Young (finish)
  • 1984 by George Orwell (for Carrie's Classics Book Club)
And depending on time, maybe one or both of these from my "To Be Read" Pile Challenge:
  • Little Heathens:  Hard Times and High Spirits on an Iowa Farm During the Great Depression by Mildred Armstrong Kalish.  Kristy keeps talking about how much she enjoyed this one, and she's only let me down once. . .(Jasper Fforde, cough) :)
  • Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto.  I'm in my 14th year of homeschooling and I've never read this book.  How can I truly qualify as a homeschooling mom without having read it?

Friday, March 27, 2015

The Book Club Assignment

I'm hoping to write a series of posts about my experience in reading my first book by A.W. Tozer.  My friend, Carrie, hosts a book club on her blog and asked me to host a month.  Here is the blurb I wrote at the beginning of March describing why I chose to read The Pursuit of God and inviting others to read along.

I chose the christian classic The Pursuit of God by A.W. Tozer for this month because I have intended to read it for years, and have just never gotten around to it. I thought the accountability of reading it with others for a book club might help me actually accomplish this goal.


Like Paul, I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection. I am good at knowing about God from what He reveals about Himself in His Word, but how well do I really know God? I have long heard admiration for Tozer's devotion to following God and leaving worldly things behind and I think there is much I can learn from his writings about developing a closer relationship with my Lord. 

I have also heard that he didn't have much formal education, but educated himself and I am always inspired by self-taught people. 

I have to admit I'm also a little intrigued about his biography, A Passion for God, which indicates he was so focused on ministering to others that he might have neglected the mission field of his own family consisting of his wife and seven children. If I have time, I may have to read both books.

Stay tuned for my thoughts on both books!

Thursday, March 26, 2015

One Plus One

One Plus OneOne Plus One by Jojo Moyes

I didn't really like the other book I read by Moyes, Me Before You, but I enjoyed this lighthearted escape (and I've been looking for a fun escape, rather unsuccessfully before now).  After a rather challenging morning homeschooling my children (someone exchanged my relatively well-behaved children for some monsters this week), I escaped into this book during naptime and didn't come out until after my husband had grilled supper.

One Plus One reminded me that my challenging days aren't really so challenging when set beside a single mom of two desperately trying to make ends meet, while one child is being bullied and the other is a genius with math but they can't afford the specialized training her gift needs.

I most appreciated two themes in the book:

1) Normal is highly over-rated.  "Everyone I've ever met who was worth knowing was a bit different at school.  You just need to find your people" (145).  School is simply different from real life.  In the adult world, people's unique abilities and personalities are celebrated and lead them to their own brand of success.  In school, however, like in a herd of animals, those who are different are targeted by the rest of the pack.

2) "Rich" is a matter of perspective.  To one of the main characters in the story, he was merely "well-off" but not rich.  To a person struggling just to put food on the table, however, he was rich.  It reminds me that I am rich.  Instead of comparing myself to those who live in extreme luxury, I need to appreciate that "rich is paying every single bill on time without thinking about it.  Rich is being able to have a holiday or get through Christmas without having to borrow against January and February.  Actually, rich would be just not thinking about money all the bloody time (how to get enough of it to get through another week)" (135).

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Chore Packs Revisited

I have problems with consistency.
We've used the chorepack system by the Maxwells quite successfully in the past.  The children wear their little pack filled with individual cards for each chore until all chores are completed.  It helps the kids to have a clear directive of what to do, and it helps me not to have to nag remind them again and again.
But we had neglected the chore packs the first semester of this school year.  With the new year, the new semester, I revamped their chore packs and determined to reinstate this wonderful routine.
It has been working splendidly for nearly three months now!  No more reminding kids to brush their teeth or hair, no more asking someone to sweep up after a meal, no more sending someone to get the mail, unload the dishwasher, or wash the dishes.
They retrieve their chorepacks after breakfast and again after lunch and complete their assigned tasks.  They love to work--kids really do.  They love to contribute to the family, to feel needed, to have a sense of accomplishment for a job well done.
I'm going to try really hard not to fall off the wagon again.  This house is running so much more smoothly with chorepacks in place!