- your marriage is unsound.
- you need a lot of time to yourself.
- you need gratitude from a child.
- you need love and affection immediately from a child.
- you cannot allow your child to have memories of, and affection for others in his past.
- you are not willing to reach out to others (adoptive parents, therapists, etc.).
- you don't have a strong sense of humor.
- you must have total respect and compliance from your children.
- you are not comfortable with expressions of anger from your children, even if it is directed at you.
- nothing in your house can be messed up, moved or broken.
- you feel the need to possess a child.
- you cannot accept failure in yourself.
compiled by Joellen Vansword and printed in the Alabama Friends of Adoption newsletter
I've been thinking a lot lately about reasons people sometimes adopt and just thought I would share (and put in one place so I don't lose it) the above list and a link to an wonderful article by Russell Moore.
I think these things also apply to having a baby. Just saying.
ReplyDeleteI think they apply to foster parenting too!
DeleteOOoooh so many things to say. And process.
DeleteIn short: I agree.
Yes, many of them (though not all, of course) apply to all sorts of situations, I agree. I was just reposting as it resonated with a couple situations I know of personally. Makes me sad. . .
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